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Mental health – What I do to deal with anxiety.

I’ve been wanting to make this post for a long time because I feel like I have a lot to say on the topic of mental health. I will probably end up making another, more in-depth post, about it at a later date but for now, I thought I would give out some general advice that has helped me cope with it all, throughout the years.

Anxiety has been a big part of my life ever since my teenage years. It’s been a long and winding road, full of ups and downs but I’ve learned a lot from my struggles with it. It has made me grow a lot as a person and I feel like it’s made me very grounded in myself. I’ve become very in tune with my feelings and I now know what to do, when something sends my feelings and thoughts spiraling out of whack in the form of a panic attack.
On another note: I think it’s important to remember that panic attacks comes in many ways and forms. Sometimes you don’t even know you are having one until it’s over.
It doesn’t have to be big and scary things that set you off either. It can be small and mundane and sometimes it comes right out if the blue.
However, this isn’t a post about my anxiety. This is a post about how I deal with that anxiety when it comes knocking, so here is some general advice I would give to people struggling:

1. Recognize your own triggers/patterns:
I think it’s very important that you can recognize your own patterns and stop them before they spiral out of control. If you feel like you are suddenly overwhelmed by a situation or you recognize that you are catastrophizing and essentially making it out to be much worse than it is, then you can rationalize with yourself and stop it before it goes out of control and becomes a panic attack.

2. Take a quick time out:
If a situation is stressing you out more than usual or becoming increasingly overwhelming to you, then walk away from it for a bit and come back to it when you feel better equipped to deal with it. There is absolutely no shame in that.
Sometimes a bit of distance can give you a new perspective on the situation and help you see things more clearly.

3. Try to practice positivity:
Oh boy did I have a lot of trouble with this in my teen years! Everything seemed negative to me and I catastrophized everything. Now however, I usually try to flip the coin and look at the more positive side of things. It takes a lot of practice but it has helped me tremendously.

4. Try to exercise in any way you can:
Exercise is super important when it comes to both depression and anxiety but I’m not always good at getting my 30 minutes a day.
Instead I opt for a quick walk. Anything that gets me out of the house and into some fresh air. It helps me focus and now that autumn is steadily approaching, I think it’s safe to say that I’ll be doing ita lot more!

5. Reach out:
I know this is the most cliché advice of them all but it’s SO important. Whether it’s with a partner, trusted friend or a professional, it’s incredibly important that you talk about what you are feeling. Getting it out of your system and mulling it over with other people can really help process the situation that is setting off your anxiety.

I try to do most of the things that are typically recommended but these are the ones I’ve found to have worked the best. If you have any other suggestions please share them in the comments!

I’ve been going through a really rough patch with my mental health lately, which is part of the reason I wanted to make this post. I also just wanted to say how grateful I am to all of you who keep up with the blog and follow me on social media. I know that lately it’s been spotty with content and I promise I will clear up the reason for that soon. Just know that there is a lot going on behind the scenes that I can’t talk about yet, though I wanted to at least let you know how grateful I am for your company and your investment in my content.
Thank you all so much! I wouldn’t be here without you and I have a lot of ideas for upcoming content and stuff I want to do in the future!

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50 Comments

  • Jasmin

    This helped a lot. Thank you. I’ve struggled with anxiety my whole life and it sucks. These steps I feel like are really important to follow if you wanna overcome it. I hope things get better <3

  • Hannah Steele

    I’ve suffered with anxiety for a number of years and something that really helps me when I’m having a panic attack is grounding. I usually go through 5 things I can see, 4 I can feel, 3 I can hear, 2 I can smell and 1 I can taste. I also try a variety of breathing exercises as well as trying to keep myself distracted, usually by talking to a friend if I’m in public. I don’t know if you’ve tried any of these things but they’re really helpful for me! I hope everything is okay on your end, we’re all here for you 🙂

    • Hannah Steele

      I also meant to say thank you for writing this! This is really helpful for me and I assume many others too. I think it’s great that you’ve written about something that many people can relate to, and this can help people to realise that they’re not alone 🙂

  • Luci-Morningstar812

    I love this post and I use quite a few of these methods myself (especially walking away from an overwhelming situation). I’ve been struggling with anxiety for a good few years now, but it’s something I’m always trying to work on and overcome
    Also, please don’t stress about content. We follow this blog or your other social medias because we love what you do, so just know that there are always people here for you. I hope everything sorts itself out for you soon <3

  • Jayde Wilson

    Honestly Signe,
    you’re amazing. You have helped so many people with your videos and blog posts. You’ve helped me with anxiety. I try and do the things listed above and it does help. We are always here if you want to talk or rant. We love you hope things are better <3

  • Clementine Mulvihill

    This is such an important post. I think sometimes people forget that those they look up to maybe be dealing with the same things they are. It’s really nice that you’re willing to be open and offer your advice and support. Posts like this are so helpful. Thank you for being open and honest with us! Also, please take your time with your content etc. We’ll always be here for you and what’s most importance is your mental health and well being. I hope everything gets better for you and that you have the support you need to get to a good place.

  • Sepia

    Very good and very helpful. Seriously, catching yourself (by learning your signs/triggers), reframing and practicing positivity is huge. Stop making jokes at your own expense. To truly feel better, you have to treat yourself better. Also, if you’re spiralling/catastrophizing: imagine the worst case scenario, genuinely play it out. Then imagine the best case scenario, and finally the event that’s most likely to happen. It really helps put things in perspective.

    I can recall having anxiety since kindergarten and I’ve been seeing a therapist for 2 years now. It’s been very helpful and has greatly reduced my social and generalized anxiety. Good luck to you all!

    • wiishu

      Yeah, self-deprecating jokes can sometimes do more harm than good. I’m glad you are seeing a therapist, they really do help!
      Good luck to you too!

  • Emily Valdez

    Hey Wiishu.. I just wanted your take on the European Union copyright directive? It apparently will effect everyone and all forms of media. YouTube creators would not be able to post and even things on Instagram would be censored. How do you and Seán feel about it?

  • Missery

    Have you been diagnosed with anxiety disorder?

    I think it is also important especially for teenagers to recognise when they have an actual mental health issue and when it is just the hormones going bonkers because of puberty. Getting help from professionals is more important than latching on to Youtubers and expecting their content to magically cure any issue.

    • wiishu

      Yeah I’ve been diagnosed with both generalized anxiety and social anxiety.

      I completely agree. Self-diagnosing can cause a world of problems, which is why it’s important to go to a professional.
      Like i mentioned in the post, I would like to make a more in-depth post, or maybe even a video, talking about mental health etc.

  • brynn (@thetinykiwi)

    As a fellow person with anxiety, I’m still working on the positivity thing. It’s a work in progress.

    As for the “behind the scenes” stuff, hang in there Signe. I genuinely do really like you and your content, you seem like a cool and talented peep, and regardless of how things turn out, I’ll be here for ya. <3

    Hopefully that wasn't too much sappiness (oops) but you get the gist (I hope)

  • Shenanigans

    Thanks for sharing about this. I have a few anxiety disorders (OCD, Social, and I believe the last is Generalized) as well as depression and Asperger’s Syndrome, so I understand how it feels to be overwhelmed and have anxiety and panic attacks (luckily I don’t get panic attacks often.) I’m personally trying to work really hard on identifying my triggers (the main one being raised voices/yelling). It’s- I’m not in a situation where I can really stop whatever I’m doing and take a step back when I have anxiety attacks, I’m forced to just work through them as best as I can, but I am at least trying to work in thirty minute walks. I think you wrote some solid advice here, and I’m going to try to keep it in mind.

    Take all the time you need!! No need to rush yourself to tell us what’s going on. Take your time ^u^.

    Thanks for sharing!!!

    • wiishu

      You seem to have a lot on your plate but I’m so glad you are working through it the best you can! Thank you and good luck with it all!

  • La Dame Who Fell To Earth

    It’s really nice to hear from you again here on your blog wiishu, and the fact that you’re talking about mental health is pretty comforting. I struggle a lot with anxiety, especially during the college year and I always find myself panicking about the smallest things and I let them escalate to a much greater scale than what they actually should be. I feel like going out for a walk can always be one of the greatest helps though. There’s always something really healing about walking away from a stressful situation.
    I really hope anxiety isn’t eating away at you too much because you’re seriously one of the sweetest girls and most awesome bloggers I follow. I really hope you feel better soon <3

  • MyMy

    I also don’t really notice I have anxiety in till it’s over. Also personally these things do help a lot!! Also remembering to eat healthy and drink water are also good. It’s another thing you don’t have to worry about once you start doing it!

  • Myriad

    It’s been lovely seeing you more active on social media and thanks for the solid advice – I’ve just started a new job, moved home and I’m about to start university, so this couldn’t have come at a better time!
    One thing I keep telling myself is to take the weight off my shoulders and not put so much pressure on myself, and that it’s okay to leave a situation I’m not comfortable with, or just taking the time to relax and be a little ‘selfish’ for a change.
    Let’s work through our fears together! =)

  • Dying Neutron Star

    I’m so glad you made a post like this it seems like everyone I can think of is struggling with mental health right now including myself with depression anxiety and just finding myself in general so seeing I’m not alone in this and that people who I look up to so much (including you) can help people fight it and help them so thank you for empathising with us and doing your best to help others.
    Thanks Signe I owe you!

  • Dying Neutron Star

    Just want to say thank you for doing whatever you can to help people with mental health issues like anxiety and depression. I’m currently seeing a therapist about my anxiety and emotions so thank you for your empathy towards everyone and I look up to you so much in so many different ways.
    Thank you Signe you’re a hero and an inspiration!

  • Mikayla

    This is going to be such a great help. Thank you so much Wiish. My anxiety, like yours, has always been one of my biggest obstacles. (As you can imagine, going through a lot of childhood trauma and abuse from both of your parents can be quite taxing on the brain.) I’ve struggled with it for as long as I can remember but never really told anyone until a few years ago. These steps that you’ve written about today are some that I myself even use but there’s definitely some new ones in here that I’ll have to try. And again, I just want to say thank you for writing this. There’s a lot of nights when I cry alone in the dark, in my room, because I feel so alone and scared but to know that I’m not the only one going through this means the absolute world.

  • Nia Eva

    Now, I don’t know if I have anxiety, but I do always feel worried and nervous. If I’m not worried about something in particular, it’s something else. It’s feeling like if I do this or say that, everyone around me will remember it and hate me, because I remember that thing I did in 4th grade so everyone must hate me for it now. Especially with school just starting up again, I needed something to help me out day to day, so thank you for posting this. I’ll try to remember this when I’m out there in the wild society!
    Thank you, and have a great night! 🙂

  • Charity Kaptain

    I have anxiety and find it a little hard for me to handle it. I am happy you posted this because I don’t feel alone in this. Does Sean help you with your anxiety? I know I have a friend who has anxiety and we help each other. Thank you again and good luck on the world. I hope my anxiety and social anxiety can get somewhat better.

  • Hannah

    I’m really sorry you’ve been going through some stuff lately. Don’t worry about content right now, just worry about your health. You enspire me in several different ways and I love reading your blogs and watching your videos, but I’d much rather you be happy and healthy than stressed and worried. I hope things turn up for you soon 🙂

  • Ashley Bingham

    Firstly, I want to thank you for being willing and open to posting something like this. I know this is something a lot of people, including myself struggle with as well! I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been struggling lately. I really hope whatever is going on clears up soon! You seriously do not need to apologize for the lack of content. You do what you need to wiish! Keep doing great things and being you’re amazing self 🙂

  • Oli

    Thanks Woosh! I needed this; I just started college across the country from my home town and my anxiety is becoming more and more prevelant. I find so much comfort in your posts about mental health cause it makes me feel less alone and helps me learn how to deal with my panic attacks in new ways. Thanks for being brave enough to share what helps you!

    And I’m so sorry you’re going through a rough patch; just know we’ll be here whenever you’re ready to come back. Don’t worry about content, I’d much prefer you happy and healthy than creating constant content. We can be patient!

    Much love

  • Vivian G. Glitchet

    Wishing you so much love and happiness as you and everyone fight through this! Unfortunately as my grandfather recently passed a few days ago, I’m doing everything I can to keep those positive thoughts helping me power through each day.❣️

  • Igs

    Keep doing you dude, youre great. I dont have anxiety (thank fuck) but im glad you’re trying to help others. Unrelated Q: do you have any book recommendations, any genre (im trying to broaden my variety)?

  • pastyspov

    As a fellow sufferer it’s nice to see other people sharing their strategies for dealing with anxiety. I’m still struggling to wrangle mine four years after I was diagnosed, I’ll get there though.

    Sorry to hear you’re going through a rough patch, sending all the good vibes I can <3

  • EmeraldBoxer

    Thank you for sharing this advice, it’s actually very helpful. I realized that I’ve been getting anxious or unsettled and bothered by things lately (lately being two years, lol). I’d hate to diagnose myself, but we all suffer from various forms of anxiety and I greatly appreciate you sharing how you’ve coped with it. I find it strange how I get anxious about the littlest things, even knowing I’m going to be okay in the end. Just the other day I broke down into tears and felt worse about it because I felt I was ‘doing it for attention’ and ‘being dramatic’ despite literally being locked alone in my room. I dunno, it’s weird having all sorts of stress weighing in on you, it’s kind of suffocating and my situation gradually feels more and more claustrophobic as I get older. Anyway, I’m glad you’re talking about this. Ever since I first started following your content and learned about your diagnosis I felt that I could relate in some way. So again, thank you. And we understand that things get a little rough from time to time. You don’t have to feel obligated to post if it’s too much at once, nor feel guilty about it. ^^

  • momlife07

    This is a touchy subject for many and it is hard to say what to do when you are in the moment. This helps for anyone who is willing to help themselves 🙂

  • hopefulsnowdrifts

    I’ve been dealing with panic attacks and general anxiety for years. It sounds so cliché but pausing for a moment and taking deep breaths (in and out to the count of four and then increasing numbers if you can) can help slow down your brain. I also find listening to music and singing along to the words can help stop intrusive thoughts in the moment. Moving also helps, especially getting up and walking around but if your in class and can’t do that try tracing little circles on your desk so you don’t distract anyone. Hope this helps my fellow peeps! We all can kick anxiety’s butt together!

  • Broken Canister

    Thanks for sharing your post. I can relate to a lot of what you said, especially things like catastrophizing everything. I had a dull pain in my side and straight away I believed it must be some kind of cancer. Turns out it was a strained muscle. A psychologist told me once that catastrophizing is like being a traffic light system with no amber, he told me that the dull pain was 99.9% likely to caused by something other than cancer and, even if it does turn out to be cancer, what’s to say that you cant tackle it and live on for many more years. Like you I also find the grounding techniques you described useful. I saw a psychiatrist the other day who told me to try dunking my head in a basin of cold water when you feel the onset of anxiety attacks, he said splashing water on your face wont help much but instead to fill a basin and place your head into it for a few seconds at a time. He did tell me why this had a positive effect but I cant remember what he said lol, sorry. Take care x

  • Saguren

    This is the kind of post that really helps others out there! Personally, taking time out is my best coping mechanism. Later on, I am more able to use positivity techniques once I’ve calmed down. I tell myself that every attack makes me stronger.

  • manojit5star

    The only way to combat the trouble of anxiety and trauma is by practicising spiritual therapies in a lonely atmosphere. It will help to build the endurance ability to soak mental pressure in all walks of life.

  • Andrew Wong

    Interestingly, 3000 years old ancient wisdom tells us that emotional issues, e.g. anxiety can also be caused by deficiency in our physiological system. Eg. Heart is filled with joys or sadness. Fears affects kidney. Excessive anxiety can cause sleeplessness particularly between 3-5 am in the morning as anxiety affects Lungs functionalities.

    There are many more such knowledge, will share later.

    Cheers

  • articlealleyblog

    These are great suggestions! I tend to count things in order to ground myself when having a panic attack which helps too! I also write everything I’m feeling out then burn the paper with all of it to release it.

  • caybee2009

    Thank you for this. I will be showing this to my partner who is in this same crisis. My own blogging is around decompressing how I feel trying to help him through this.

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